Steve Mayeda


The Failing & Implosion of the PUA Industry

  Pick up was never about sex and seduction, it was about insecure men trying to stop being insecure.  Let’s get this straight, there is nothing wrong with a man who wants to meet women.  There is nothing wrong with a man who wants to have a sex life that he has never experienced.  There is nothing wrong with sex, there is nothing wrong with learning a skill to meet women and have sex, but there is something wrong with pick up and the culture it has become.   SoRead More

Chasing Validation – 117

Chasing Validation The key to living a good sexual life means you stop making it about women and you start making it about you. For many reasons men and women chase what they are supposed to have when it comes to their personal identity rather than look at who they are. This has turned into many different distortions. One of them is chasing validation. We see it over and over again with both men and women. Just the other day I was looking at an article about how an asianRead More


HOW DO I BREAK UP WITH HER? If you want to learn how to be good with women you’re going to have to learn how to have a relationship, end a relationship and perhaps even why you want a relationship in the first place. This is where TSL has so much of its power as a men’s group. For the past 10 years we have been teaching social dynamics but in a group setting, building up a massive alumni who’s experience is unmatched. As a collective group we haveRead More


Somewhere in the end goal of every man and woman is to learn how to have the best possible relationships with each other. That can mean anything – monogamy, swinging, whatever your heart desires. In fact there can be no boundaries put on expression or sexuality. You must find what you like and make it your way. What is most interesting about the seduction, dating and self-help industries is how rare healthy relationships are. Of course many men and women in those industries have had relationships but very few haveRead More

Why I Hate New Years Resolutions | BR 111

One of the things I hate about New Years Resolutions is people don’t do them.  We make goals and plans to better our lives that have nothing to do with us and more to do with an image or an insecurity.  Our ambitions and goals have become something that is determined by what is ‘cool’, what sounds ‘cool’ and what will give us meaning and status. When it comes down to the true meaning of who we are, we need to do very little. But one thing is for certainRead More