Turning Your Friend Into a Lover

This is the age old question…  How can I turn my friend into a lover? How do I get out of the friend zone? Please, Steve tell me the secret PUA trick to getting this girl to like me? Before I give you the answer to this, I want to say something first… I hate questions like this. Why? Believe me I have asked this same question many times myself. The 15 year old me, the 25 year old me and the 28 year old me would have begged forRead More

Chasing Validation – 117

Chasing Validation The key to living a good sexual life means you stop making it about women and you start making it about you. For many reasons men and women chase what they are supposed to have when it comes to their personal identity rather than look at who they are. This has turned into many different distortions. One of them is chasing validation. We see it over and over again with both men and women. Just the other day I was looking at an article about how an asianRead More


HOW DO I BREAK UP WITH HER? thesexuallife.com/116 If you want to learn how to be good with women you’re going to have to learn how to have a relationship, end a relationship and perhaps even why you want a relationship in the first place. This is where TSL has so much of its power as a men’s group. For the past 10 years we have been teaching social dynamics but in a group setting, building up a massive alumni who’s experience is unmatched. As a collective group we haveRead More


Somewhere in the end goal of every man and woman is to learn how to have the best possible relationships with each other. That can mean anything – monogamy, swinging, whatever your heart desires. In fact there can be no boundaries put on expression or sexuality. You must find what you like and make it your way. What is most interesting about the seduction, dating and self-help industries is how rare healthy relationships are. Of course many men and women in those industries have had relationships but very few haveRead More

Why I Hate New Years Resolutions | BR 111

One of the things I hate about New Years Resolutions is people don’t do them.  We make goals and plans to better our lives that have nothing to do with us and more to do with an image or an insecurity.  Our ambitions and goals have become something that is determined by what is ‘cool’, what sounds ‘cool’ and what will give us meaning and status. When it comes down to the true meaning of who we are, we need to do very little. But one thing is for certainRead More


They say, “failure is our best teacher” I hate clichés (maybe I need to explore this…) I hate them because they are lazy statements.   A statement, or a quick story never did anything to give me a good life.  At most it gave me some relief. What has always helped me was reality.   Our mission at TSL has never been to find a Social Dynamic or a way to have sex that merely worked.  It was to explore ourselves and live in the reality of sex.  Live inRead More

7 Outstanding Language-Learning Apps and Websites

Speaking the local language—or at least knowing some basic phrases—is one of the best ways for travelers to tap into foreign cultures. In countries where English isn’t widely spoken, it’s essential to learn some key words and phrases, but even in places with an abundance of English speakers, you’ll find that locals tend to respond better when spoken to in their native tongue.

If you’re looking for a handy phrasebook that will teach you the basics, check out the Fodor’s Travel Phrases app (works on iPhone and iPad), which features everyday phrases (with recorded pronunciations) in 22 global languages. But if you want to know more than “Where is the nearest bank?” and “thank you,” you’ll need to do some studying. The next time you’re planning an international trip, consider practicing the local language with these 7 indispensable language-learning apps and websites.


Incredibly well-designed and user-friendly, Duolingo is a free site that teaches users languages through drills, requiring a mix of reading, writing, listening, and speaking. An “immersion” section allows you to read real-world articles while helping to translate them. Beyond that, Duolingo makes studying fun by awarding you points for lessons completed and bonuses if you do well; a social aspect allows your friends to see your progress and vice versa. If you wish, Duolingo will send you daily reminders to study, which is easy to do, even while you’re on the go, if you download their free app. Currently, the site offers instruction in Spanish, French, German, Italian, Portuguese (Brazilian), Dutch, Irish, Danish, and Swedish. If you’re feeling ambitious, you can study multiple languages simultaneously at no extra charge.


If you want to interact with native speakers, try Livemocha, which provides lessons in more than 35 languages. Reading, writing, speaking, and listening are studied separately on its platform, with structured lessons that first present new material before asking users to apply what they’ve learned. Premium membership isn’t free, but you can earn lesson credits by tutoring other clients (e.g., editing something that they’ve written in your native language, or giving feedback on their pronunciation via audio recordings). Livemocha also allows its users to access virtual classes or book private tutors for online sessions.


With an international community of more than 40 million registered native speakers, Busuu relies heavily on its customers’ efforts to help teach each other. Beginners’ lessons use flash cards for learning new words and phrases, but advanced lessons involve writing and answering questions that will be reviewed by native speakers on the site. Dialogues, writing exercises, and audio recordings are also part of the mix, but grammar-focused lessons, video units, and printable PDF files are only available via paid memberships. However, the free lessons are available on-the-go via Busuu’s apps. The site offers instruction in Spanish, German, French, Italian, Portuguese (Brazilian), Russian, Polish, Turkish, Arabic, Japanese, and Chinese.

Living Language

If you’re serious about learning, consider signing up for an online course from Living Language, with offerings in 20 languages. Available in a variety of course lengths and costs, the lessons combine vocabulary, grammar, audio conversations, and cultural notes. Games, puzzles, and e-tutoring with native speakers are other popular features. Apps for the iPhone and iPad offer full course content, interactive games, and flash cards on the go. If you don’t want to pay for a course, Living Language’s Free Resources section affords a variety of language-specific PDFs that are useful to travelers or anyone looking to build vocabulary in a language they’ve already studied.

Foreign Services Institute

Deceivingly simplistic in appearance, the Foreign Services Institute features extensive text and audio resources for more than 45 languages. Designed by professional linguists for the U.S. government, these free materials are of the highest quality, created with the aim of aiding users gain fluency. Lessons are organized around grammar and repetition, and in addition to more popular languages, the site offers resources for learning lesser-studied options like Romanian, Igbo, Serbo-Croatian, and many more. Note that though the site hosts government-sponsored learning materials, which are in the public domain, it’s actually run by private individuals.


Visual learners should head to Memrise, a site that features countless categories of so-called “mems,” user-generated mnemonic flash cards that rely on graphics, humor, and imagination to implant new vocabulary in your memory. The site hosts thousands of free courses in many languages; you can also upload your own mems for other users to view. Because the content is entirely user-generated, the quality may vary, but when mems work, they really work.

BBC Languages

In its “Quick Fix” section, BBC Languages showcases useful phrases in 40 languages, but the site’s strong suit is the comprehensive lessons it offers in seven languages: French, German, Spanish, Italian, Greek, Portuguese, and Chinese. For these foreign tongues, the site conducts assessment tests to identify your level as beginner, intermediate, or advanced, and accordingly provides resources like PDF vocabulary lists and crossword puzzles. Video lessons are the most valuable component on the site, as it’s difficult to find similar offerings for free elsewhere.

“Doing Whatever it Takes to Be the Better Man” | BANG RADIO! Ep 105

We all know how to do what is necessary to be alive, live happy get by; but very few of us do whatever it takes to be the better man.  That is why I have the friends that I have. It is this connection that gives me the opportunity to do whatever it takes to be the better man. One of those people is my buddy Dave…   Dave is somewhat of a mentor of mine, but not in the sense of how most people look at mentors.   Dave isRead More


READ PART 1 – Click Here GETTING HEALTHY w/YOUR SEXUAL LIFE The journey to sexual freedom doesn’t have to have hookers and blow. It doesn’t have to have drama and pain. But if you do live in that repression at some point you will break and not even know how you got there. You will be lost looking for an answer, living as one bad social and sexual reaction to the world around you. The whole purpose of TSL is for you to live a healthy social and sexual lifeRead More


READ PART 2 of this Article When we don’t see sex as a reality we see it as a fantasy. If we are living in fantasy we will never be fulfilled. WATCH THE BANG RADIO Eps Sadly this is how men and women have their sex lives now. We have a fantasy of what sex is supposed to be and forgot how to express it with ourselves. We are afraid to experience for ourselves and what we believe in so instead we experience based on what we are supposed to be.Read More